When most people think of bullying, they think of kids picking on other kids on the school playground. However, that’s not where it stops. In this first of three excerpts from the June 18, 2015 episode of The C.A.P. Podcast, I talk about what bullying is and how you can do it to yourself.
As I mentioned in the video, bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. There are four main types of bullying: emotional (sometimes called relational), verbal, physical, and cyber. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion, such as intimidation.
When bulling is aimed at yourself, you become mean, overly critical and/or hard on yourself. Here are some examples of how self-bullying manifests:
- Denigration: “You idiot!”
- Criticizing: “You never do anything right!”
- Name calling: “You stupid …”
- Threats: “The world would be better off without you!”
- Mocking: “Oh, that was nice!”
- Using historic references to remind of past failures, guilt and shame.
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