Do you keep the plans you make for yourself?

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Weekday Wisdom, Episode 54

Do you keep the plans you make for yourself? That’s what we’re going deep dive into in today’s Weekday Wisdom.

Do you keep the plans you make for yourself?

Today we’re going over Question 14 in the quiz — we’re down to the last three questions! — which I gave you way back in Episode 40. Question 14 is this:

“If I have something planned for myself,
I don’t just toss that aside when someone makes a request of me.
True or false?”

How do you interpret this question? Let’s take this weekend for example. Initially, I had in my mind a plan: I wanted to have some corned beef, because was St. Patty’s Day, and I wanted to do something with my husband. And then the rest of weekend, I wanted to work on my book.

Well, this weekend’s plans kind of got changed on the fly. And it got changed for the better. So, yes, new requests were made on my time, but I weighed the balance and I thought well this is actually more of what I want.

It was kind of like what I talked about in a previous video where I said sometimes you’ve got to give up one thing here in order to have something even better over there.

So, we ended up going to see a movie, which I’d hoped to see, Annihilation. It was interesting. I’m still processing it. And then we went on a ride on a Ferris wheel. And then we went to have our corned beef. And then, just on the fly, we decided to go to a used bookstore.

Annihilation movie poster

Annihilation movie poster

Carma riding on the Ferris wheel at The Pike in Long Beach, CA

Riding on the Ferris wheel

Corned beef and cabbage meal at the Long Beach Cafe

Corned beef and cabbage meal at the Long Beach Cafe

books from Planet Books in Long Beach, Ca

My finds at Planet Books in Long Beach, Ca

Carma's finds at the Vintage Paperback Show

My book finds at the Vintage Paperback Show

Well, at the used bookstore we learned about something going on on Sunday. A Vintage Book Show. And that sounded like it was a lot of fun. So instead of working on my book on Sunday, we ended up spending the whole day doing stuff together.

So in that case, I did give up something I had planned for something that was like totally amazeballs. (Yes, I said amazeballs – deal with it.) That was pretty OK.

That said, if I had planned time for myself, or time with my husband, for this weekend and someone had said, “Hey, I really need you to do this thing for work,” or “I really need you to come to this business event,” I would have had to say no, because “me time” and “us time” with my husband is a higher priority.

I love my business and I want my business to grow. However, I’m not willing to sacrifice myself or my marriage for it.

The first part of the question is, “If I have something planned for myself”. I think the key here is “myself.” That is self-care. Remember, when you’re creating work-life balance, it’s a balance of getting stuff done that you need to do in your business or at work, along with self-care, so that you have enough energy and spark to do it. Again with the oxygen mask, which I talked about in a past video.

The second part of the question is, “I don’t just toss that aside when someone makes a request for my time.” That means that you’re not always at the beck and call of other people. You’re balancing the requests of others with, “Will this help me? Or will it actually hurt me?”

You’ve got to say no when people request things of your time that is going to hurt you in some way. And this is where a lot of people falter. And I’ve done it. I’ve totally done it myself. As I mentioned in the past video, I’ve been a people pleaser. So I’ve often said yes when I really wanted to say no.

What you’ve got to do, for your physical and mental well-being, is step into your power, Own Your Awesome, and say yes to those things that benefit you, that grow you, that nurture you. And say no to the things that are not of benefit to you, that don’t help you, and that actually hurt your self-care.

Remember this:
Think outside the box. OK? Don’t box yourself in, think outside the box.
Then, spread your wings and fly.
Because you — yes you — are capable of more than you know.

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Carma Spence, The Own Your Awesome Mentor, is fiercely committed to guiding women to Owning their Awesome and turning it into a profitable business. She is masterful at helping her clients see what is possible for them and supporting them on the journey from where they are to where they want to be, releasing the Mind Goblins of self-doubt, self-sabotage and second-guessing that keep them stuck.

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