Do you say NO when you need or want to?

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Weekday Wisdom, Episode 52

Do you say no when it’s appropriate to or when you need to? That’s what we’re going to talk about in today’s Weekday Wisdom.

Do you say NO when you need or want to?

Today we’re going to go over Question Number 12 from the quiz I gave you away back in Episode 40. And question number 12 is:

When I need or want to,
I say no to requests for my time.
True or false?

I had a lot of challenge around this before. I was a people pleaser for much of my life. And that partly came from the message I took as a young child that I didn’t matter and everybody else mattered more than me.

However, when you Own Your Awesome, that means you have respect for your time. And that means when people ask you to do things that are either not something that you’re good at or that you don’t have time to do, you say no.

No is a perfectly okay answer. Something that happened to me a lot is I would ask somebody if they could do something — it was somebody I cared about — and this person would feel like I was pressuring them into saying yes. And I said, “If no wasn’t an answer that I would accept, I wouldn’t ask you, I would just tell you.” So, no is an appropriate answer.

No is a really good way to help you take control of your time. For example, right now — I have to admit, I sometimes get really irritable about this — I’m working on my next book. You know this. I know this. I’ve been talking about it for a while. And yet, I still have friends, who know I’m working on my next book, make requests for my time. And these are not, “Hey! Let’s have lunch,” requests. They are more like, “Can you help me with this project,” requests.

My answer? Dude! — or Dudette — I am busy right now. I can’t do this project for you.

Saying no honors yourself. It’s something confident people say. Confident people say no.

Now, this doesn’t mean you should become a naysayer to everything. You want to weigh your answers. Sometimes you need to set aside what you’re busy with now to do this thing that you hadn’t thought about because it will actually help you achieve what you need or want to achieve later.

It’s always a balancing act. And this goes back to yesterday’s video where you’re taking care of yourself, sometimes saying no means, “No, I’m not going to take calls today because I’m not feeling well.” Or, “No, I am not going to work today because I need to rest.”

No is a very powerful word and you should be using it to help you take care of yourself and honor your time. So I challenge you: Where can you be saying no right now?

And not to the Weekday Wisdom, you’ve got to be tuning into this. LOL.

Where can you be saying no right now to take control of your life and your self-confidence?

Remember this — it’s really important.
Don’t box yourself in. Think outside that box.
Spread your wings and fly.
Because you — yes you — are capable of more than you know.

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Carma Spence, The Own Your Awesome Mentor, is fiercely committed to guiding women to Owning their Awesome and turning it into a profitable business. She is masterful at helping her clients see what is possible for them and supporting them on the journey from where they are to where they want to be, releasing the Mind Goblins of self-doubt, self-sabotage and second-guessing that keep them stuck.

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