Ethics & Integrity

Ethics & Integrity

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Chapter Nine: Ethics & Integrity

Before I go into my reaction to this chapter, I think it would be prudent to get us on the same page on what some terms mean.

The first is ethics, which according to means:

  1. a system of moral principles
  2. the rules of conduct recognized in respect to a particular class of human actions or a particular group, culture, etc.
  3. moral principles, as of an individual

So ethics are, by definition, dependent on morals. So, the second term we need to be clear on is moral, which according to means:

  1. the distinction between right and wrong
  2. founded on the fundamental principles of right conduct rather than on legalities, enactment, or custom
  3. conforming to the rules of right conduct

And finally, the term integrity, which according to means: Adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.

If you were paying attention, you may have noticed a bit of convoluted circular definitions going on here. Each word depended on the other for meaning, and yet were independent and different at the same time.

Soul gives these words a more personal definition to ground this chapter. He says that ethics are “a set of time-tested principles you create or abide by to accomplish a specific result on a regular basis. Morals mix in the act of judging something based on a set of personal or group standards or norms.” And your level of integrity is how well your actions match your words.

Chapter nine challenges you to define these terms in your own words. To discover what they mean for you and to create your own code of ethics to determine your level of integrity. He says ethics are what you say you are going to do and integrity is whether you do it or not. Morals are a changing judgement of right and wrong.

For example, at one time in history, it was morally right for a man to beat his wife. Today, thankfully, not so much. In fact it is not only illegal, it is a felony. Morals change. Ethics and integrity only change per person, because they are created by ourselves for ourselves.

For example, if I say I think showing up on time is ethically right, but then I’m late with no good reason … my words may be ethical, but I obviously lack integrity. Interestingly enough, Soul suggests that you can be ethical but not moral and vice versa. To illustrate, let me use the wife-beating example again.

Back when it was OK to beat one’s wife, a man could say it was abhorrent to do so and be ethically correct. Then he would hit his wife and be out of integrity, going against his ethics, but, according to the culture around him, be morally correct.

You could spend days, weeks, months exploring the concepts in this chapter and still find yourself, at times confused. And that, my friends, I believe is what makes this chapter so worth exploring.

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Carma Spence is an international best selling author and award-winning speaker who helps women, introverts and shy people vanquish Mind Goblins, unleash their content creation superpowers and communicate their message with confidence so that they can create meaningful and fulfilling legacies.

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