Forgive Your Flaws

covering yourself in veils of doubt

Photo: &copy photoillustrator.eu | PhotoXpress.com; Design: Carma Spence

Everyone has flaws, even the super successful. The difference between those who are successful and those who are not is not that one has less flaws than the other. Most of the time, the difference is in the level of acceptance and self-flagellation.

Actress Ariana Grande once said, “Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are.” And I concur.

When you Own Your Awesome you forgive your flaws and mistakes. You don’t use them to beat yourself up for being less than perfect; you use them to learn and grow. And, when you really hit your stride, you leverage them to be more magnetic to all you want to create in your life.

You were born perfect, whole and complete. Growing up didn’t change that. What changed is that you began to cover yourself with veils of doubt, shame, fear and numerous other negative beliefs. Owning Your Awesome is a process of unveiling your true self. And one of the key steps for doing that is accepting your flaws and releasing guilt and anger from your past.

Yes, I know that is easier said than done. I’ve been on that journey for years and I still have guilt, shame and anger to release! But I’ve learned to forgive myself for my self-growth pace, as well. My journey is my journey and it will take as long as it takes — and so will yours.

“We are flawed creatures, all of us. Some of us think that means we should fix our flaws. But get rid of my flaws and there would be no one left.”
~ Sarah Vowell, Take the Cannoli

On another note, I’d like you to ponder this: What if your flaws were really what make you you? Nathaniel Hawthorne wrote a short story called “The Birthmark” in which a scientist is engaged to a beautiful woman with one small flaw: A birthmark in the shape of a small hand on her cheek. Through science, he tries to remove it, but as it fades from her face, her life fades away, as well.

Sometimes, what we perceive as our flaws are exactly what make us lovable, worthy and unique. They are, many times, not even perceived as flaws by others! Therefore, the next time you find yourself obsessing over a flaw, why not shift your perspective and view that flaw from another angle? Perhaps you’ll find that your “flaw” is really a strength.

And now, I’d like to leave you with one final quote:

“Certainly paradise, whatever, wherever it be, contains flaws. (Paradisical flaws, if you like.) If it did not, it would be incapable of drawing the hearts of men or angels.”
~ Henry Miller, Big Sur and the Oranges of Hieronymus Bosch


Originally created for the TidBitts.com platform, launched in September of 2014, my content on Fridays helps you “Own Your Awesome” in the eight facets of your life.


Eventually, PDF and audio versions of Own Your Awesome Friday content will be made available. If you’d like to know when this content becomes available, complete this form:

Keep me in the loop!

* indicates required



Email Format


Opt In Image
Are you making these mistakes?
Subscribe to The C.A.P. Newsletter & receive this FREE report!
  • Learn what mindset you need for success
  • Discover why you need more than just a book
  • Uncover whether your marketing is effective or not
  • Evaluate if you are valuing your work appropriately
  • Identify the key person you need to have on your team to ensure your success

I will not share your information with anyone at any time, and you can unsubscribe at whenever you want using the link at the bottom of each message.

Sharing is Caring

About the author

Carma Spence is an international best selling author and award-winning speaker who helps women, introverts and shy people unleash their content creation superpowers and communicate their message with confidence so that they can create meaningful and fulfilling legacies.

You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.