Weekday Wisdom Episode 58
Do you Own your Awesome? Or do you fight it? Are you triggered by compliments?
Last night I was cleaning up in the downstairs room, which is supposed to be my office but it’s still a storage room, and I found these Awesome Trigger Cards that I had created a couple of years ago. They’re not for sale, so don’t worry. I’m not trying to sell these to you. Frankly, I haven’t figured out how to do print on demand for them yet. And I don’t intend to buy a bunch and store them, hoping I’ll sell them.
Anyway, I created these Awesome Trigger Cards using words of affirmation. Each card says, “I am …” and then a positive word. The idea behind this deck is that you choose an Awesome Trigger Card and then you journal about your emotional reaction to it.
What I’ve found is a lot of times people are triggered by what they really are because they deny it.
I thought it might be kind of fun for me to do the exercise for you right here, live, on the Weekday Wisdom. Here’s the plan: As you’ll see in the video below, pulled one card and then shared my reaction. What I challenge you to do is to journal what your reaction is to the same card. And my card was:
“I am wondrous.”
OK. Yeah, this one triggered me, which is probably why I picked it.
Well, first of all, what does wondrous mean? To me, it’s sort of an amalgamation of wonderful and awesome and inspiring. As I said this, I realized that there are people who have used those words to describe me. However, I can see how that’s a little hard to Own. I tend to be modest, most of the time.
Don’t get me wrong. I do Own my Awesome in some respects. I am a talented, kind, smart person. That I know. That I got. And, I also I know how to create information products. I know how to help people do that, as well. But, is that wondrous? I almost feel like like I’m being conceited by Owning “I am wondrous.”
I wonder, do you feel that you are wondrous? If so, why? What makes you wondrous? I’d love to know! (Seriously, share how wondrous you are in a comment below!) If not, why not? Why don’t you feel wondrous?
Just for hoots and giggles, I pulled another one. This time I got:
“I am brilliant.”
Well, that felt so much better than wondrous!
This is an interesting exercise because here’s what goes on when you’re triggered by words that actually do describe you. When I was in high school, at the end of the year I would get the yearbook and have everyone sign it. And, for me, person after person after person kept describing me as “nice.” And was disappointed. Nice is boring, I thought.
OK, yes, I’m nice. I can’t help it. That’s who I am. I’m nice. But couldn’t they come up with a different adjective?
See how I was triggered? It was a compliment and I was triggered.
Why are we so triggered by compliments? When someone says something nice about us, why do we feel the need to go, “Oh no, no, no. That old thing? No, no, no.”
We all need to Own Our Awesome, and when someone compliments us, we should say “Thank you.” For example, if I were to say you are wondrous, you should say, “Thank you.” And then zip it. Don’t reply with, “Thank you, but…” Not with, “Thank you, and…” Not with, “Thank you, however…”
Just, “Thank you.”
Soak it in. Breathe it in.
Now, if you are interested in me making these available, let me know. If there is enough interest, I’ll put in the effort to make them available. The cards were a creative experiment. And, I just loved having them to hold. They’re kind of fun and they were fun to create.
Think outside that box.
Spread your wings and fly.
Because you — yes you — are capable of more than you know.
You are wondrous. You are brilliant.
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