The Sky Is Not the Limit

For the last three days I’ve been watching this daily vlog that Derek Halpern does. And he’s kind of snarky and he’s himself and he’s got all these fast cuts and everything. And they’re very entertaining. And it kind of piqued my interest and I thought to myself, “Hmmm. I wonder if I should be doing something like that?”

You see, I’ve been working in the background, not connecting with the people who follow me. And I keep having all these ideas of what I want to do, but I’ve been so hard at work on my book in my spare time — I have a day job — what I decided to do is create a vlog myself.

Now first I was thinking, “Oh, I’ll just share my journey as a side hustler.” And then I thought, “You know what? That could get really boring really fast.”

I used to do this podcast called Power Thoughts where I shared a quote and my thoughts on it. So I thought, “Well maybe I could do that live on Facebook!”

So today’s episode, which you can find on Facebook or in edited video and audio versions below, is really kind of an experiment to see if this is something you might be interested in.

Weekday Wisdom with Carma Spence, Episode 1

Here’s the plan I have for Weekday Wisdom — it will be five days a week, Monday through Friday — and I’ll share with you a quote and my thoughts on it. And I’ll also share with you what’s going on in my life. Because one of the things I am aiming to do is to show people how to create a side hustle and turn it into a full-time gig.

In other words, I’m actually going through the process myself. And, boy! When I first came up with this idea, I thought, “Oh! That won’t be so hard.”

Well, it’s taking a lot longer than I thought it would because — well, OK I did get hit by a car. That kind of derailed a lot of things. And I’m having to deal with the aftermath of that accident. But then again, I think this is also part of the journey. I’m sure there are a lot of you out there who are creating businesses on the side and coming up with frustrations.

Today’s quote is not attributed to anybody, but when I first read it, I thought, “Wow. This is awesome.” And the quote is:

“Never tell me the sky’s the limit
when there are footprints on the moon.”

I think one reason why I really like this quote is that one of my personal mottoes is, “Reach for the stars and if you only get to the planets. Wow! That’s pretty darn impressive.” And what both of these things are saying is, don’t aim small. Aim big.

Now the problem with this is a lot of people are afraid to aim big because they’re afraid they’ll fail. But here’s a perspective shift. Aim big. And what that does is pull you toward a bigger part of who you can be.

If you aim for where you know you can go, that’s as far as you’ll go. It would be like saying, “I aim to walk out the front door.” Well, I walk out the front door. I’m here. I’ll go back in. But if I aim to get to the other side of the country, I’m going to continue to move toward that goal.

Now, I may not get there as fast as I want to. For example, I’ve been working on this book called Public Speaking Super Powers. I started the project in the spring of 2010. It is now 2018. And there have been a lot of things getting in my way to moving forward on that. Last year, however, a couple of synergistic things happened that have gotten me to a point on this project where I have finished the first phase. Hallelujah! My goal is to have this book launched by my birthday this August. I am fairly on track, although it may be pushed to September.

Because I’ve made this big, audacious goal, I’m constantly feeling pulled toward it. Now the balance of that is you also need to be not too hard on yourself. There are days when I’m like, “Oh! I wanted to do three podcasts edited this week and I didn’t get to it. I only got to one.”

Well, life gets in the way sometimes. And being a relative newlywed — I’ve been married to my wonderful husband for a little over a year now — I need to be very cognizant of balancing my day job, my side hustle, and my relationship. And now I have a cat, too! He needs cuddle time with Carma, as well. So, I’m constantly keeping aware of not biting off more than I can chew.

I think that was my biggest lesson for 2017: I had big, audacious goals and then I beat myself up that I didn’t achieve them all.

One thing I did last year — which was probably a really good thing — is every time I accomplished a task, I put it in another area of the file for accomplished tasks. Yesterday I was organizing all that stuff and I realized, “Holy cow! I accomplished a lot last year!”

Yes, I did not accomplish everything I had set out to do. But then again what I’d set out to do was pretty darn impossible for one human being to accomplish. So what I’m doing this year is I’ve kind of scaled down a little bit and I’m going to be OK with the fact that things may get in the way.

For example, I mentioned I was hit by a car. Well, I’m dealing with all these health issues. For one, last May I had my nose straightened because when my face hit the pavement, my nose was broken and I couldn’t breathe very well. And, after the surgery, for two weeks I was breathing wonderfully. And ever since then my nose has been clogged up. I’ve been going to doctor, after doctor, after doctor. I’ve had allergy tests — apparently, I’m not allergic very much at all. I think I’ve had three allergy tests and only two things I’m, almost, sort of, allergic to. Now I’m looking at having a second opinion with a USC doctor. It’s been very frustrating because I can’t breathe. And when you can’t breathe, it makes it hard to exercise. And when you’re not exercising, you gain weight. I’m heavier than I’ve ever been in my life. And I’m frustrated.

And then when you have a day job — and I have an hour and a half commute one way. So, I’m not getting enough sleep. I’m tired all the time. And I get angry and frustrated. The last six months I’ve been noticing that my complaint quotient has gone up. Therefore, one thing I’ve decided to do for 2018 start taking control of what I can take control of. And those are small things, small steps.

I guess what I’m saying here is, number one don’t limit yourself. Don’t let the sky be the limit when there are footsteps on the moon. Aim for those stars and then be happy when you only reach the planets. Aim big. Be OK with only getting halfway there. Because if you keep getting halfway there, and halfway there, and halfway there, eventually you’ll get there.

Please don’t box yourself in. You are capable of more than you know. Allow yourself to spread your wings and fly.

Please post a comment below If you enjoyed today’s episode of Weekday Wisdom, please let me know. Go ahead and put comments down below, or on Facebook, or on YouTube. What would you like me to talk about? What challenges are you having that I might have an insight into? I talk about online marketing, creating a side hustle, product creation, mindset. Oh! Believe me, I know about Mind Goblins. I’m fighting them every freaking day. Those little buggers!

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Carma Spence is an international best selling author and award-winning speaker who helps women, introverts and shy people unleash their content creation superpowers and communicate their message with confidence so that they can create meaningful and fulfilling legacies.

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